What if I am beautiful?
Not just my inner self, but my outer self as well? How will that change my perspective of
myself? Will I allow the world to define
my beauty? Will I finally believe others
when they say I am beautiful? Will the Lord
speak truth into my life?
For all my life, I have looked at other women and compared
them to me. What do I define as outer
beauty? Long hair that is wavy and
luxurious, for one. Color of hair
doesn’t really matter to me. I have wavy
hair, but it is frizzy and unruly. A
slender body that is free from stretch marks and free of fat. My body is not slender in the least. I could lose more weight than I have
been. And I will most likely never be
slender. My body is not that type. It is big boned and more prone to excess
weight. Eyebrows that is full and
even. My eyebrows are missing hairs, I
believe. They are full, but very
uneven. Skin that is smooth and free of
any kind of blemishes. I have moles on
my arms, especially in the summer. And
my cheeks stay red constantly. And I
have stretch marks from my constant losing and gaining weight. Full lips and perfect white teeth. My lips are full, especially my bottom one. My teeth are stained and in horrible
shape. Plus they are crooked. No, I don't believe that I am beautiful.
Some people have called me beautiful. Especially my future husband. He calls me beautiful very often. And it hurts him when I don’t believe him. Yet my definition of beauty has been so in grown
in me that I cannot perceive why he sees me as beautiful. They
say that love is blind, and maybe that is true for him. Yet he has been calling me beautiful since we
first began talking online. Surely if he
didn’t think I was beautiful, he wouldn’t have sent me a message. I simply cannot see what he sees. To me, I have a lot of physical blemishes
that makes me feel unattractive and ugly.
The most I will go is pretty. But
I don’t feel pretty when I have so much excess weight. My weight is defining how I see myself. Should I believe my future husband when he
calls me beautiful?
Is it the world’s label that makes me believe that I am not
beautiful? The world labels outward
beauty. You have to be a size 0, have
long hairless legs, have gorgeous hair, and have no imperfections at all. The world looks at weight. The more you weigh the less beautiful you
are. What if the world is wrong? What if it doesn’t matter about the pounds
you need to lose or not lose? If the
world is wrong, then what defines beauty?
Should I believe the world?
I long to feel beautiful.
I am not the kind of woman that spends excess amounts of money on makeup
and beauty treatments. For one, I don’t
have the money. Even if I did, I
wouldn’t be spending it on makeup and beauty treatments. There are better things to spend money
on. Maybe beauty is an inner thing, not
an outer thing. Maybe it doesn’t matter
what I wear or what I weigh.
For so long I have been labeled as fat, ugly, and
disgusting. Kids in school were the
first ones to label me as such. And the
abuse I suffered through didn’t help matters any. Every time I was abused, I felt dirty,
disgusting, and ashamed. The kids only
hammered in the truth. Looking back, I
wonder what was wrong with me. Or maybe
what was right? What caused my abusers
to abuse me? I know it wasn’t my
fault. I was just a child, and adults
are supposed to protect you. Yet, what
did they see in me that they didn’t see in someone else? Did they see my beauty and wanted to destroy
it? Or did they see something else? I don’t blame the kids for making fun of me
and calling me names. They were
children; they didn’t know any better.
And they were being taught themselves what beauty is labeled as, just as
I was being taught to hate myself and to consider myself as ugly.
Years of believing I am ugly makes it hard to change. And the fact that I consider myself as pretty
is a huge step for me. It didn’t come
easily, but through years of constant doubt, struggles, and ultimately healing. Would I say I am attractive? No, I would not. Yet my future husband insists that I am very
attractive, especially to him. Is he
right? Am I wrong? Or is he wrong, and I am right? Should I believe him? Or should I believe myself?
The Lord calls me a precious jewel. The word precious has a very special
significance to me. The first time I was
called precious was in prayer, and the Lord softly told me I was precious to
Him. The first time a person called me
precious was in church when an elderly woman called me “Precious”.
God calls me a precious jewel. Yet does He call me beautiful? When I think of a precious jewel, my thoughts
immediately turn to a rare and beautiful stone.
The jewel is beautiful in darkness and in light, but its beauty really
shines through in the light. Is God
trying to tell me I am beautiful by calling me His precious jewel? Is He telling me that my beauty reflects even
in the midst of darkness? Is He
lying? Or is He blinded by love? God is truth.
Do I dare call Him a liar? If He
is lying about my being beautiful, maybe He is lying about everything
else. If I believe He is lying, I need
to reconsider everything I spiritually know.
No, God is honest. Is He telling
me that I am beautiful? If He calls me
beautiful, then should I believe it?
Should I believe Him?